The immediate culture and the privilege of choice.

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Many of the people here in the US do not understand how fortunate they are to be in this country. My face flush with hate when I hear them complain about small inconveniences and pain. Let's talk about pain a little more. No one likes to be in pain, but our reaction towards pain is in our control. It's the 5th vital sign but it's the only parameter that is subjective among the five. Even if we put numbers to measure it, we get different levels on the same type of pain on different people. I noticed that people here in the US want the easiest possible life they can have. They expect and want everything to be painless and dandy and that otherwise is unacceptable and frowned upon. Like when they undergo for procedures that they chose to have or that saves their lives, they expect an immediate fix with the absence of pain. And when they experience the slightest pain, all the interventions that kept them alive and made their lives better goes out the window. I had a recent experience where a patient had a partial colectomy that was then anastomosed (attached). This was a preventive surgery that involves cutting off a part of her colon because it was showing signs of malignancy (cancer). I have cared for a lot of people who had abdominal surgeries and it's highly likely for them to develop Ileus (the inability of bowels to contract normally) due to bowel manipulation during…

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Following You

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The more efficient way to live life is to live it with intent, to live it the way you specifically wanted it. Acknowledge that people--especially those who are around you, your friends or loved-ones, may have their own opinions, but their opinions should not hinder you from standing for your own. By all means follow your way, it'll make you feel better. And if at some point you noticed that "yours" did not work, take full responsibility and learn from it. Experience pays better than trepidation. They may follow you if they want to, but for you, the easier path is to follow you first.

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Stories we believe as true.

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We tell ourselves stories. These stories, whatever they may be, are something we perceive as truth--our truth. And when someone tries to convince us otherwise--their truth, we see them as fools. This is the reason why presenting a change is hard, it creates tension, it disrupts our belief system. Rather than opposing against the original truth, present the change as a different truth. A story we can easily tell to ourselves.

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