The good thing about being the “kuya” or the “older” person in the room is your hindsight advantage. That’s why parents/elders usually give the young-bloods directions and strong, unsolicited opinions about a particular scenario because “they could’ve” done it themselves if their circumstance at that time allowed them to–this is kind of controversial but you get the point.
Few days ago, I was asked by my younger brother about a life decision that most of us go through. I obviously experienced what he was asking about and I have my own opinion of it. I wanted him to see a different angle in contrast to what he is seeing now and what I then saw. But for some reason, I don’t want to give him an “opinion”, because that would be my preference. Every life decision is personal and I want to have him own his piece of the pie. He may have preferences that are skewed from mine. And I don’t want him to look only from my lens, as there are many lenses to peek. The best I can do is shed some light or open his mind to other options that may also work for him. I do not want to direct him to do this then that, and he’ll merely follow what I say even though he had his own desires. There are things that only him can ultimately decide. And if he’s looking from a different lens, I might not see it on my end. Opening him to his options, I think is more beneficial for him, than merely giving him directions because our opinions may have limitations too. The need to make a decision is a need.